Help for couples

Regardless of the format of work that might suit you best such as weekly meetings or daily sessions for a weekend or more, our work together will be focused on your specific relationship needs. For most couples, communication, relationship enhancement through quality time and other strategies as well as remedying sexual concerns are intertwined. I work with the whole person and all aspects of the relationship.


Traditional weekly sessions

Most local couples elect to be seen for a consultation session of 50 minutes together.
During that time, we discuss your goals and I outline how I would work with you and your concerns and guesstimate the number of sessions needed. Most of the time, local couples elect to be seen weekly at one of my two St. Louis offices. As progress is made, sessions usually move to twice a month, then monthly. Couples sometimes return for a “tune up” when needed.


Couples Intensives

For some couples, distance, work travel that makes scheduling difficult, demanding home environments that make privacy challenging, or a relationship crisis make the Intensive model more beneficial. Couples schedule a long weekend or a 5 day or 10 day visit to St. Louis to work intensively on the relationship and/or sexual concerns. In this format, couples are seen multiple times daily, usually resulting in rapid progress that is followed by telephone or skype check ins to be sure progress is integrated into the pattern of your lives when you return home. To schedule a Couples Intensive, we would chat briefly by phone or skype about your specific situation and goals, and decide together which option might be best for you.


Couples Reconnections Retreats

Couples can arrange private retreats for themselves or for multiple couples at suggested scenic locations in the US or abroad. Retreats for couples are usually selected by couples who have minimal intimacy difficulties, but might benefit from a new experience together or a “tune up” for their relationship. These retreats are designed to combine relaxation, fun, skill building in communication, and commitment to an individualized plan of action on behalf of the relationship. These individualized Retreats may include daily mindfulness practice and Thai Partner Yoga alongside more traditional experiential suggestions to enhance your relationship.


Costs

I charge a standard fee for my 50 minute local sessions but Couples Intensives and Couples Retreats are individually built and priced. Please contact me at sextherapiststlouis@yahoo.com or intimatereconnections@yahoo.com for additional information on pricing and insurance or use of a Health Savings Account.


Travel arrangements for your trip

While couples are responsible for their own travel, hotel and meal costs, our travel consultant, Myra Rowan at mrowen@chichille.com will be delighted to help you with your plans.

Reading and Resources for Couples

Not So Old Fashioned (pdf) by Anne Schuhle including an interview with Linda Weiner regarding sex and aging.

The Unraveling: Relationship Disengagement and The Robust Repair Strategies of Intimate REconnections, LLC, by Linda Weiner, MSW and Patricia Elmone, M. Ed.

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts,by Gary Chapman

Passionate Marriage: Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships, by David Schnarch

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from The Country's Foremost Relationship Expert, by John M. Gottman

Lasting Love: The 5 Secrets of Growing a Vital Conscious Relationship, by Gay and Kathleen Hendricks.

Rekindling Desire: A Step by Step Program to Help Low Sex & No-Sex Marriages, by Barry McCarthy

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, by Esther Perel

Partners In Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy and Long Term Love by Michaels & Johnson

He's Just not Up for it Anymore: Why Men Stop Having Sex, and What You Can Do About It, by Bob Berkowitz and Susan Yager-Berkowitz

After the Affair, by Jane Abrahms Spring

The Heart of Desire, by Stella Resnick

The Return of Desire, by Gina Odgen

The Complete Idiot's Guide to Tantric Sex by Judy Kuriansky